Practically Impossible Friendships

There have been times in my past where I am aware of a person’s existence. However, they most likely are not aware of mine. Why? Well, for one thing, seeing as how the amount of human population on earth exceeds over 6,850,000,000, it’s very likely that most people in the world are not aware that I exist. And this is a fact that I do not mind the accuracy of at all. But another reason why that person might not be aware that I exist, is because they are well known. And this presents a problem.

I remember in my younger years of life, when I could still afford to throw temper tantrums (but was on the edge of reaching the age that I shouldn’t have those kinds of fits), I had an instance of this situation. I, at the time, was completely and utterly obsessed with Lord of the Rings. And I thought, “Wouldn’t it be crazy amazing to be able to meet the entire cast of that move?” Of course, knowing all the extras and everything else that goes into making a movie, I knew this was impossible, so my hopes were really set on meeting the four hobbit stars of the trilogy. Obviously this never happened.

There are still times when I observe (from a very far distance) the personalities of individuals who are well known in society, and I just know – call it intuition – that that person and I would get along great. So very unfortunately, there are numerous problems with these…desires, dreams, wishes, whatever you’d like to call it…that make it really impossible to ever happen. This is the reality of life.

I suppose there are two ominous factors that out-scream all the other factors. The first, is that I am merely human. You may not see the problem in this, but I do. Most people who, at some point in their life, were like me, with most of the world being ignorant of their existence, are now at the point in their lives to where they are being stocked, obsessed over, dreamt about, you name it, by hundreds of thousands – if not millions – of people. And these people, mere unknown individuals like myself, all have their different reasons for wanting to either meet or build a friendship with these well-known individuals. I think the biggest part of most people wanting to be friends is either bragging rights (“Hey, guess what? I’m friends with so and so!!!”) or even going so low as to use that person (“Hey (insert famous person’s name here)! I have a couple of friends who I have seen in a while, and they want to get in to see you. But they’re broke. And so am I. Do you think you might be able to snag a few VIP passes for them? And for me?”), etc.

Contrary to the intentions of most others, the individuals that I have in mind whilst writing this, I have no other desire to be their friend than for the few simple reasons that I have…

1) I just want to be their friend. Everyone needs a listening ear (or ears) in their life…usually at more than one time. They need someone to lean on, someone to rant to, someone to call in the middle of the night to talk to because they’re lonely, or they need prayer. I want to be that friend. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t think that “I’m the answer! I’m the person you’re looking for!” kind of girl. And I’m sure they already have numerous people in their lives that they can already go to for advice, prayer, and all that jazz. But I would like to offer my mere friendship to them, just for their sake. We all need people to encourage us in our lives. And from someone who isn’t well know, doesn’t have lots of pressure on themselves, my perspective on some issues might be able to help. Maybe.

2) There’s just something about these individuals that I know, I know, that we would click. Maybe not right away, but after that “clicking” point, we would indeed get along grandly. I’m not going around looking for friends, or trying to build relationships with people who have influence. If anything, because of the introvert that I am, as well as being an extremely private person, I wouldn’t want people to know that I have connections/friendships with well-known people. Then I would get people coming after me. And that could get draining.

3) Another reason for desiring friendship, is because I care for that person. I love them (as a brother or sister). And I know there are things I can learn from them. And I want them to pass on their wisdom to me…I want to be closely influenced by them, their lifestyles, and – most importantly – their love for God and their relationship with Him. These people that I have in mind have been a big inspiration to me in regards to being so well-known and choosing to still be bold about what they know is true. And I want to be around them (or at least communicate with them) enough to where I would be even more influenced and change even more…for the better.

That covers it for the first huge factor. Merely being human. And the second factor is closely related to that. I am not only a human, but I am a female. And there is a problem with this.

A couple of individuals that I can think of (and desire) to have a wonderful friendship with, are of the male specimen. This proposes a rather uncomfortable and annoying obstacle. Because these individuals are male, and I am female, it could be taken by them (and people in the world), that I am not really seeking friendship, but rather trying to get a relationship with non-specified male. And that is completely opposite of my would-be intentions. That’s one thing I hate about the world and genders. A girl becomes friends with a guy, one of them is possibly well-known, and then everyone goes assuming that just because they’re hanging out, they’re dating, or some other such nonsense. And it is completely nonsensical. If I were to even ask a young man to “accept my hand in friendship,” he himself might take it the wrong way. And who could blame him? These people get so much attention and so much talking at them, that it’s not their fault if they think everyone just wants to be their friend because they’re famous. It’s not their fault if people who genuinely want to be there for them, get lost in the voices of the others who also believe that they’re “genuine.”

Of course, it’s true that if these people weren’t well-known, that I wouldn’t have any idea that they existed either. Which honestly, would be a great tragedy, believe it or not. But I’m grateful that they do exist. I’m grateful for their influence in the areas that need it most and for being just an encouragement to me. And even more so, despite the fact that we may never meet nor become friends, I am still aware of their existence and can pray for them daily. And that is an opportunity for which I am glad.